Definitely upgrade to the i7 and don't worry about the extra 1Gb of memory on the video card.
Memory on video cards (at least for video editing as far as my experience goes) isn't used that much.
You definitely want a more powerful processor because the CPU handles quite a bit of the rendering.
You can do a Google search to see other responses and benchmarks on different amounts of video ram. Overall, you won't see any significant improvement.
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