Vince, I'm sorry to see that you haven't gotten an answer to this question yet.
I don't know of a Blu-ray player with no OSD after pause, either; every event I've been on with Blu-ray playback has suffered around the lengthy delay while the OSD clears. If you find the unit you're looking for, I'd love to hear about it.
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