Custom Flash Video Skin

Ok, I need some help. I have looked at about every tutorial on the internet for this and nobody explains what I want to do.

All I want to do is create my own skin for use in dreamweaver with a play button and a mute button along with a logo on the player. Just like the skins you will see on the videos at ispeakvideo.com or rovion.com. How do I create a player like that? I would really like the player to be a seperate .swf file from the flash video I have that way I can use it over and over in dreamweaver. Is this possible or do I have to import my movie into flash and then create a custom skin ontop of my movie? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. I don't think I am trying to reinvent the wheel. I'm just missing some peices to the puzzle.